Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Eye on the Prize by Dmytro Holmes | A Book Review

Eye on the Prize by Demytro Holmes | A Book Review by iamnotabookworm!

I got this review request from the author last February. It took quite a while for me to get on this book. I remember, at some point, I had this lined up on my TBR but I lost my tracking worksheet when the laptop crashed. This somehow got lost in the never-ending TBR pile. Last week, I checked my list which I wrote after the unfortunate laptop crash and realized I still haven't gotten to this. Finally, here it is. I am really sorry, Demytro Holmes for the delay.

This book is about a boxer. This reminds me of course, of no other than, Manny "Pacman" Pacquiao. As it turned out, the author was a former boxer and this fictional story seemed to have been inspired from his first-hand experience as a boxer. So, I was very fascinated when I found out how this story came about. Even more so, when I found that the author is a cancer survivor. He knocked out cancer just like the main character here in this story, Mikai, who knocked out his demons and fought hard for his dreams.

The title perfectly fits the message of the story. Eye on the prize! I often hear this phrase associated or often given as a piece of advice to all those who are working on achieving something--like athletes, or a guy trying to woe a girl for a long time, or any other goal. Eye on the prize! Focus! No distractions! No goal is too far if you keep your eye on the prize and work hard on it, everyday. This I think is the mantra for most athletes to get that coveted gold medal. 

Like all success stories, Mikai, became a champion boxer by keeping his eye on the prize. Unfortunately, like all stories, it was not as easy as it sound. Along the way, he lost his focus, was distracted mentally and emotionally and lost his way. His discipline wavered and trusted the wrong people. And like every other successful person, what saved him was his mentor and father-figure who never gave up on him. Without him, Mikai would have surely never reached his dream and would be probably six feet under or forever be under the claws of a mob boss.

This is my first time to read a story about a boxer and more so, written by a boxer himself. The story resonates with a lot of personal experiences of the author. I can clearly hear and taste the raw emotions of the hardships the characters of Mikai, Joe and Caitlyn had to go through. The story does not only talk about the rigors of training to become a professional and champion boxer but also about the personal demons of the characters. This talks about bullying, of domestic violence, of running around with the wrong people and trusting the wrong people to save you. We often hear of best friends betraying each other. This story has that also. 

This isn't an easy story to read because it talked of very painful subjects and experiences which are very common and real. In some way, you will find yourself relating to one or many of the characters experiences. At some point, you have been in their shoes and going through the same ridicule and battle. 

The best thing about the book is the straight and raw stating of the events like they were happening as of the moment. I can feel that it was written as honestly as possible without embellishment. For the most part, I felt so sorry for Mikai. And I for one, could definitely personally relate to his experiences. This story, in brief, tells us to be meaner than our demons. 

I give this book 4/5 pairs of boxing gloves. I love stories about underdogs and bullied people rising up. As I said, I can relate to Mikai's character because I too was bullied. I can't wait for the next book where Mikai and his childhood bully would meet in the ring. I am sure his bully won't know what's coming for him. I would like to see his face getting reduced to pulp by Mikai's punches. Then, remind him of boy with the glasses he used to torment.


This is a painful story but inspiring as well. We all could use Mikai's experience as an example that not all is lost. Whatever battles and problems we are dealing, with enough will-power and unfailing support from our family and friends, we can defeat all demons and throw away all baggages that have been weighing us down for the longest time. This story is also proof that even the most disciplined people like athletes, fall off the wagon and succumb to temptations. After all, we are just human but even so, we can tap into that resilience and will-power hidden within the depths of our being, to punch and kick all the demons that forever want to keep us down.

All of us have made choices at one time or another that left a bad taste in our mouths but we do what we have to do.
- Dmytro Holmes, Eye on the Prize -  




Thursday, November 10, 2016

Ideal High by Valerie Epson | A Book Review

Ideal High by Valerie Epson Book Review

The author, Valerie Epson, sent me a DM on Twitter asking if I wanted to review her book. I replied that I did and she sent me an e-book copy. Thanks again Valerie Epson.

This is just one of the times I was asked to review a book. I feel flattered and honored as I am just a lowly blogger. I am not even sure if people read my reviews. Yes, my blog have some views but it's not very impressive or world-breaking. But I don't mind. I am not discouraged as the reason I started the blog was to share my views, opinions and it's also a way for me to vent out my frustrations. It's my way of coping with things that are not happening and I don't want happening in my life. No, I am not pressured in any way. Yes, I do dream of gaining thousands of followers but I am just starting this blog and others have been doing this for years. It may take a while for me to be able to reach more people.

Ideal High is a book about Taryn, a Senior in Ideal High School who has just gone through a very tragic experience. Her supposed to be boyfriend Blake and President of the Student Council, with six other students died in a fire. Taryn, being the Vice-President will need to take Blake's place. But Taryn cannot and would not want to be President. She could never do what Blake does or did...until, she was forced to.

You know the saying, some books find you. This book is one great example. This book just came to me and I was fortunate that it did. This is one of really commendable books that I have read. This book is very brave and honest. It talks about bullying. And I can relate to what is in here. I was bullied too. Whether it was in grade school or whether I was already in college or working. Everywhere, there are always bullies, not just in high school, which is really sad. I am not anymore as weak as I was back in grade school. I now put up a fight but most of the time, I decided to leave the place where I am unhappy. I have a choice now to walk away and be somewhere else where I am appreciated. Like they say, if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. But I assure you, choosing to leave, doesn't mean I was defeated. I just chose to remove or stay away from toxic people and from those that won't help me in any way. I chose to have a better life and be a better person.

So, let's go back to the book. I know, I always get sidetracked. I just want to point out that this book runs very close to my heart. I can easily picture myself in there, being one of the bullied. I am saying that it is admirable to talk about this very sensitive subject. And a lot of people have been becoming aware of bullying and its ill-effects. Spreading awareness means a lot. Sometimes, those bullies, do not know what they are doing. Most do know but just refuse to acknowledge it because it's their way of exerting some semblance of control over someone or his/her life, because, in most cases, at home, he/she can never do that. The root causes, always lie at home. And most parents don't even know. Some are in denial. 

In my case, I felt fortunate that some of my tormentors in grade school realized what they did to me. Some even apologized to me a few years back. The apology may have been twenty years in-the-making but that means a lot. So, if you have bullied someone before and you realized your mistake, it's not yet too late to say sorry. When that person's dead, that's too late. While that person is still breathing, whether he forgives you or not, saying sorry will never be useless. It is for yourself too. Believe me. It felt like some torn that was lodge in my chest for so long was removed and I can breathe easier. Never underestimate the power of a sincere apology, even if it took forever to reach the recipient or to make.

I give the book 5/5 stars. I wish I had someone like Taryn while I was growing up. I could use some champion to defend me. I remember my seatmate in grade three and she defended me once. I would never forget what she did. Unfortunately, we were not classmates anymore after that and I've never seen her again. I am not even sure I thanked her for what she did. But if I see her again, I will let her know that her good deed did not go unnoticed. So, to all the Taryn's in the world, thank you. May there may be more of you. Let's us all make it a conscious effort and work hard to stop bullying.


Sorrows, disappointments, and even tragedies are events in life, they are not life itself. They should not become the center of everything you do.
- Valerie Epson, Ideal High -